Protecting Your Marriage

I think we often just assume people know we are married and they should respect it. I agree but how often does this really happen? How many times has a man looked at your ring and still asked if you could have “friends”. Or my favorite “is you happy”? When did it become ok to hop skip and jump all in a married persons DM’s, inbox, or text messages?

It never is ok but it seems to be happening more and more. I blame the people in the marriage. Now before you get mad and click off my site let me explain. No one is responsible for your marriage except the two people in it. It was the two people in the marriage who made the vow to be in the marriage and honor it. We are unable to control others but we can control how we react to them, and the general vibe we put out there in the world.

Here are some ways to help you protect your marriage:

• Defend your spouse even when they are wrong in public- Now when you two get in the car tell them they are wrong to prevent the same thing from happening, but you should always look like a united front to the world.
• Set boundaries.- We live in a world where everyone has soooo much access to one another, hello social media. When we post pictures, tweets, and status updates people believe they know us. If someone crosses a line let them no and if they continue to do it cut them off. It is that easy. Know should ever think if they called you they could have you. This includes setting boundaries with your family!
• Keep certain things only between you two. Everyone does not need to know all the intimate workings of your marriage. I understand we all have that one married friend we vent to when needed but even she should not know everything.
• Be honest and upfront with your spouse about everything.- You never want your spouse to be the second person to hear the news. No one should ever be able to tell your spouse something about you they don’t already know.

There are so many other ways to protect your marriage but this post could get too long. How are some ways you protect your marriage?

6 Ways to Flirt With Your Husband

Think back to when you and your husband were dating, when it was fresh and new. Think about all the extra effort you put into your appearance. Remember the “special shower” if and when you knew it was about to be a long night. LOL It was fun back then. Now there are mortgages, babies, car pools, and bills. It kind of puts a damper on things, trust me I know.

What happened to the cute way you two used to flirt with one another? Those sweet little nothing texts that made you smile for the rest of the day. The endless flirting, what happened to all that. I know the answer, life, but marriage is apart of that life. You have to work on your marriage daily. So start small, and flirt with your husband. 

Don’t know how? Forgot because you been married so long? Well I put together a little list for you. Enjoy, and thank me later!!

6 ways to flirt with your husband

1. Leave him a note
2. Tell him how great he looks
3. Send a cute text
4. Tell him how happy you are you married him
5. Give him a sudden for no reason at all kiss
6. Stop him no questions asked and plant a big kiss on him, for no reason at all

Tell me how you flirt with your husband? What would you add to the list?

Love Is A Verb- 5 Ways To Show It

Saying I love you is fantastic. It feels good we all like to hear it. It's even better if your spouse's love language is words of affirmations. Still love is a verb. You need to be constantly doing something to show your love!

I know with working in or out of the home and children it makes it hard to focus on your spouse. We are humans and we need rest. We get tired. I have definitely been guilty of allowing my spouse to get whatever is left. Which, in my profession and having two children is not always a lot (enter as much shame as possible here).

This is not ok. We have to be intentional with our love. We are married, so we need to constantly show him we love him. Even when we are tired, and he has worked our last good nerve, we must go the extra mile. So I am leaving you five easy ways to show him love today. Enjoy!!

5 easy ways to show love
1. Random act of kindness
2. Do his chore
3. Offer him sex without him whining about the lack thereof
4. Leave a love note
5. Cuddle next to him and watch FOOTBALL unless he is a jumper when good plays are made, in that case watch some movie with him HE LIKES

See that list is very short and easy. Thank me later lovely! 

Tell me how you show your husband love?